Destiny and Love

Yesterday night I saw a movie named "My Sassy Girl". That was a really beautiful one.. More than the picture, the thing that attracted me was the script.. I should say.. Oh, dear!! Its really superb..

Towards the end of the movie there is a dialogue section which happens between the old man and Sassy(oops..Jordan). It goes like this :

Sassy: Well, if he and i were meant to be together i would have been healed by yesterday

Old Man: What kind of nonsense is that? Yesterday was one day ago, your healing was off by one day.

Sassy: One very important day.

Sassy: Destiny has spoken, and to search for him,will be like trying to shape and mould destiny and that just can't be a good idea.

Old Man: Just suppose that the shaping and moulding of destiny is in fact your destiny

Sassy: Huh, i never thought about it like that..

Old Man: I'll tell you what destiny means if you really want to know, that's the least i can do for letting me stare.

Sassy: What does it mean?

Old Man: Destiny is the bridge you build to the one you love.

Wow!! That was a superb line..

But later i started to think on that line, yup.. that line alone..

But was totally confused. How can destiny be equated to building a bridge?

I donno.. that sounds a bit confusing..

As far as i know.. at least experienced, Destiny is something which happens out of our knowledge.. or which happens without our intention..

but then this 'building bridge' and all.. cannot be a destiny.. it happens with our intention.. 

I get a really confused view on saying we build bridges when we call it destiny.
We usually use this kind of phrase when we need to achieve a goal.. establishing stepping stones to get to where we want to be, to fulfil our dream..our aim.

But using the word Destiny for it, gives me a bit of twisted feel ..

I donno whether i am really thinking on the line.. But still my enquiry on this topic will go on.. 

To be more close have more space in between

This blog was a result of some hours.. hmmm... no, some days of thinking on one of my friend's advice :
"Give some space to your friends".

I donno whether this was what she meant when she said that to me. Anyways, what i understood is "To be more close have more space in between".

i know, in the physical context that statement has a huge fallacy in it.. but in the context of friendships.. it is true.. at least to me, it was.

I always thought space is a bad thing, specifically speaking, when it is with friends, coz i believed that it will increase the distance between me and my friends.

But one of my close friend really taught me its relevance in this context. She always insisted me to give this so called "SPACE" to every friendship which I initially build up and then grow up. The moment i heard it from her for the first time, a sudden gush of feelings filled my heart, my vision became blurred,  later understood that the eyes were already filled with tears, but somewhere in my mind i was trying to believe her words.

It was really tough, tough like anything, to accept this new concept of space. But, at the end of the day, on the way back home, i knew, this friendship world is really a hard one for somebody like me to survive. So i need to accept this, at least to understand this, as it is the only solution i have in front of me to avoid becoming stressed on some silly issues and taking it out on my beloved family.

The most important thing i will like to do always is to be self-aware. Like, my turn-ons and turn-offs, situations in which i can become stressed and what all things i am going to speak to my friends. As far as i know myself, i dont like to hide things from my family and my best friends. I never think twice while speaking to them. All because i believe that even if i make some mistake, they are out to help me, advice me. If i am aware of these things, and take care of these things while mingling with them, i think i will be the most loving friend within my friend circle.

Another important thing is that I should never ever try to lose my self-identity. Let my friend have a life of their own. Once i am ready to accept that, i am sure, the relations will become more smooth and the bonding will become more tough. But sometimes my mind pops up a question- "Will the bonding get stronger, as you bring space in between??"
I donno..yup..i simply donno.. But i started out saying that my mind is trying to believe her words. And at this point of time, i dont wanna change that belief ..

To be frank, you know, my problem was that i always believed that my best friend is someone who loves to be around me 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.. (That sounds really rude...rit!!) But the truth behind this belief was that i always wanted to cherish each and every minute i spend with them.

I never thought anything out-of-the-box. Whether he/she is missing their friends? Whether I break my plans, or not even make them at all, or even be a reason for my friend to drop his/her plans?? All this was because I thought he/she is my best friend? So, they should be comfortable with me.. And i never even probed through them to find if they are comfortable with me.. are they in their comfortable zones??(I know.. its a big mistake, rit!!)

Ya.. this is it.. these are just a few symptoms which show that i need to give some space in my relationships, to my friends.

Let me stop this.. like she used to say.. i think i am making the whole "SPACE" (friendship) thing complicated..
 
Somewhere i have read "Absence makes the heart grow fonder". If i can never give space to my best friends, how will they ever miss me?? (Wow!! i donno how this idea came out..)

When i give some space to my relationships, it actually avoids them.. even me, from Asphyxiation(oops!! i just meant suffocation..:-)), and it also keep the relation refreshed and ongoing.

As a last word what i would like to always remember is that "Friendship doesn’t mean I am taking on a person as if he/she is now my shadow."

Hope this was what she meant..

Are you guys gonna be with me??

It's really nice to see..
When the sun in the sky meets the sea..
That's when I, Aswin, Deeps and Shari
Slowly moves out of TATA Elxsi..

Usually walks to the Mojos at Gayathri..
Sometimes to Nila beneath the red umbrellas of Rangoli..
And on the Fridays, we usually
walk to the food court in Thejaswini..
Even if our pockets are full of money..
We still share the food and honey..

Be it cloudy or rainy..
I will hold their hands firmly..
If I had one wish this is what it would be,
I'd ask you all to spend all your time with me,
we would be together eternally..

And sometimes questions comes up softly..
like "Am I of their Frequency?
Will they ever hurt me?"
But I know and I will answer it simply..
"The only way they can hurt me
is to make me feel lonely..
And I know, they will never do it to me
So why to think of it buddy??"

But at midnight when all ends up in a jiffy..
I am always cheerful and happy-go-lucky..
Because, tomorrow morning at 9:30
I know.. these guys will be with me..

എന്റെ സ്വന്തം കൂട്ടുകാരിക്ക്

ഞാന്‍ നിന്റെ വല്യ പൂന്തോട്ടതിലേ ഒരു ചെറു പുഷ്പം മാത്രമാണ്‌
ഞാന്‍ അടര്നുവീണാല്‍, നീ ഒട്ടറിയില്ല.. നിനക്ക് വേധനികുകയുമില്ല..

എന്നാല്‍ നീ എന്റെ ചെറിയ പൂന്തോട്ടതിലേ ഒരു വല്യ സുന്ദരി പുഷ്പമാണ്‌
ഒരു കാറ്റില്‍ നീ അടര്നു വീണാല്‍.. ഞാന്‍ അതറിയും..
അതെന്നേ വലാതെയ്‌ വെധനിപ്പികുകയും ചെയും..

What a day it was for me..

Wow!!
What a day it was for me..

My bike had a problem on the way..
So had to take it to the service station some 2 kms away..
Took a KSRTC Fast Passenger from there..
Then I was pushed inside to nowhere..

Oops!! I made a mistake by calling it a bus..
It was a Ship with all sort of fuss..
Engines roaring..
People screaming..
Teenagers flirting..

The air inside was really hot..
In 10 mins my shirt was wet..
and my shoes.. full of dirt..

Reached Kazhakoottam in 45 mins..
jumped into a rikshaw with all my limbs..
to reach the office in a glimpse..

Now is the comedy..
I knew i dint have any money
in my 5 year old purse with a ganesha locket..
So searched my pocket
to give that twenty rupees to the man on the front seat..

Ayyoo..
That was the only cry I could make..

my money was stolen..
Alas..
I took my purse out of my pants..
had a lots of coins..
ranging from 25ps to ...
not 10 Rs..hmm..
a little lesser than that.. 1 Re.

Started counting the coins in a hurry..
The noise was really funny..
I think that made the man worry..
anyways.. the scene was a total sambaar curry..

Appa..
14 Rs 75 ps..

I grinned..
He gave me his last piece of advice..
#$%$@#@$%^%$(malayalam)..
I donno..
Some in "pa".. some in "ma"..
Without looking back..

walked safely to the office..
My face was so bright..
but my heart was really tight..
i donno..
Maybe I will burst out in the night..

Wow!!
What a day it was for me..

After a long gap.. i m back blogging

I know I had taken a very long break..
But there was no other choice..
When you are also working in a core company, u will realize.. how tough it is to cope with.. I am struggling hard to reach some good level in my career.. And I am sure, I cud make a name in the industry only if I am ready to slog for the next two years..

Open your Eyes - 2

I was really ashamed wen one of my teachers told me tht there are many students who dnt even read daily newspapers..
While talking to another teacher.. wat she said was more shocking..
many of her students dont even knw the name of our external affairs minister??
Many of them dnt know the full forms of UDF, LDF,PAN, PIN code, etc..
She also pointed out tht many pf her students believed tht India is a member of the European Union...("Really shocking rit ....")
How many of you guys can tell me today's date without even thinking for a second... If you can, then believe tht you are one among the best, coz more than 2/3rd of the guys cant..

Open your eyes - 1

Part - ONE

Yesterday evening, I was wonderin what to write in my blog. Suddenly an incident tht
happened last week popped up in my mind.. so i thought i ll share tht with you..
I met one of my old school pals at a relatives marriage. To my surprise he is working as a
Probationary officer in a bank (wow.. nowadays a govt job is m).. you may be thinking why i
am surprised to hear tht..

Yes, the reason is very simple, coz wen he was studying in the tenth standard, he was the
only student who made a hatrick failure in all his English model exams. He was a such a lazy
fellow, who always made me do his record works and in the end paid me very generously..(he
used to buy me some bakery foods..).

Somehow he got a second class and then he joined some govt school for his plus two.. With a
five figured rank in Kerala entrance, he somehow got an admission in a self financing
college.. I donno why tis guy took elect & commn. ..hmmm.. u knww... rit...
i myself donno how i got saved from those 59 bullets(..hee.. no.of subjects..).

Anyways,he completed his B.tech bt sadly dint get placed anywhere..
okk.. bt he wasnt sad.. he applied for some govt. tests, and got placed in a reputed bank..

I knw.. first thing tht comes to your mind is tht.. "Ohh.. it was his luck.." rit??
Bt my dear frnds.. his luck alone was nt the reason..

Do anyone knw how he cracked the exam??

I ll tell you the answer.. he was a guy who always studied things in a qualitative manner
rather than quantitatively (..lik most of us do).. so we scored good marks, bt he dint.. Bt
he understood many things and sadly we dint..

He was a good reader(At school, i used to see him every morning, reading some newspaper in
the gate keepers room..nt bcoz we dnt ve a library.. bt it will be opend only by 9:30 am)
..and so he had a great knowledge on the general things happenin around us..

And I knw..if i ask you which was the toughest section for you in the bank test.. you will
say the General Knowledge section.. am i rit??

Let us ask ourselves, to how much detail did we observe things..for example..
* What was the color of the shirt worn by our electronics sir??
* Wat is the registration no. of our Principals car??
i knw its a black lancer(don't stare..I was talking abt the principal of SCT collg of Engg..).. bt
wat is its no.??
* Which branch is next to ur class?
* Which was the last notice tht appeared in ur notice board??
* Who was the Chief guest of our last Annual fest?
* How may working days are there in an academic year?

i knw u all r sitting idle.. a person who has a widely open eyes and ears only can answer these questions..

Now the smile in your face is simply coz you cant answer these things.. rit??
yaar.. this is the truth.. we dont knw these small things..

(will be contd..)

Be Proud to be Malayali

Here i m goin to speak about a malayali, born in Kochi in 1949, graduated in science,and worked as a bank officer in the early days of his career...

and then he joined the IPS in 1975...

Any guess??

ok.. fine...

His name is Radha Vinod Raju, the head of the newly formed National Investigation Agency(NIA) by home minister P.Chidamabaram.

He has a vast experience in handling terrorism and those f***ing terrorists..

He was the DIG of South Kashmir and then he became the IG of Jammu region...

Woww... u knw.. afterall we all dont even dare to work in Jammu and Kashmir...

pinna alley.. avdathey police departmentil..
entammo...

he is a real tuf guy...

I think his career graph doesnt ve a downfall..

He then joined the CBI in 1983..thts another great thing..

U knw.. He played an important role in finding tht LTTE is involved in the assasination of Rajiv Gandhi..

He was also a part of the team tht investigated the hijacking of an Indian Airlines plane to khandahar (i ve doubt in tht spelling...)

Tht was somthing abt his Achievements..

now talking about his personal life.. the only thing i know is tht he speaks about 6 languages..

and to your surprise, he was a classmate of Malayalam Superstar Mammoty..

Another interesting fact is tht, Mammoty adopted the styles of this officer when he played the role of the CBI officer in those movies(and i guess..we mallus will never forget those film series..)

pinna.. even the present kids will hum tht title music..(ta ta ta tana ta...ta ta tanata..)

okk..so i think we went away from the topic we were discussing..

And tht was the real career story of a malayali..

So guys, thrive hard, so tht we can see more malayalis in these paths..

Frankly speaking, i myself also like to get an IAS or IPS..Bt i knw its nt an easy task, bt still its possible.

The only thing we ve to do is tht, update ourselves on every thing tht happens around us...

Be a good reader as well as a good listner... more precisely a very good reflective listner..

Rest we leave to God..

Nature Nanotechnology

Stanford researchers ve reclaimd braggin rights for creatin the world's smallest writin, a distinctn the univ 1st gained in 1985 and lost in 1990.

Do you know how small is the writing?

dnt get surprised...

Ya.. The letters in the words r assembld frm subatomic sizd bits as small as 0.3 nm, or roughly 1/3rd of a billionth of a meter.

They ve encoded the letters "S" and "U" (as in Stanford University) within the interference patterns formed by quantum electron waves on the surface of a sliver of copper. The wave patterns even project a tiny hologram of the data, which can be viewed with a powerful microscope.

They ve created letters 40 times smaller than the original prize-winning effort nd more than 4 times smaller than the IBM initials.

The significance of the above discovery is that we have finally found a technique to store more information in a very small space...

For viewing the video of this discovery:

jump into the site..

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j3QQJEHuefQ