Destiny and Love

Yesterday night I saw a movie named "My Sassy Girl". That was a really beautiful one.. More than the picture, the thing that attracted me was the script.. I should say.. Oh, dear!! Its really superb..

Towards the end of the movie there is a dialogue section which happens between the old man and Sassy(oops..Jordan). It goes like this :

Sassy: Well, if he and i were meant to be together i would have been healed by yesterday

Old Man: What kind of nonsense is that? Yesterday was one day ago, your healing was off by one day.

Sassy: One very important day.

Sassy: Destiny has spoken, and to search for him,will be like trying to shape and mould destiny and that just can't be a good idea.

Old Man: Just suppose that the shaping and moulding of destiny is in fact your destiny

Sassy: Huh, i never thought about it like that..

Old Man: I'll tell you what destiny means if you really want to know, that's the least i can do for letting me stare.

Sassy: What does it mean?

Old Man: Destiny is the bridge you build to the one you love.

Wow!! That was a superb line..

But later i started to think on that line, yup.. that line alone..

But was totally confused. How can destiny be equated to building a bridge?

I donno.. that sounds a bit confusing..

As far as i know.. at least experienced, Destiny is something which happens out of our knowledge.. or which happens without our intention..

but then this 'building bridge' and all.. cannot be a destiny.. it happens with our intention.. 

I get a really confused view on saying we build bridges when we call it destiny.
We usually use this kind of phrase when we need to achieve a goal.. establishing stepping stones to get to where we want to be, to fulfil our dream..our aim.

But using the word Destiny for it, gives me a bit of twisted feel ..

I donno whether i am really thinking on the line.. But still my enquiry on this topic will go on.. 

To be more close have more space in between

This blog was a result of some hours.. hmmm... no, some days of thinking on one of my friend's advice :
"Give some space to your friends".

I donno whether this was what she meant when she said that to me. Anyways, what i understood is "To be more close have more space in between".

i know, in the physical context that statement has a huge fallacy in it.. but in the context of friendships.. it is true.. at least to me, it was.

I always thought space is a bad thing, specifically speaking, when it is with friends, coz i believed that it will increase the distance between me and my friends.

But one of my close friend really taught me its relevance in this context. She always insisted me to give this so called "SPACE" to every friendship which I initially build up and then grow up. The moment i heard it from her for the first time, a sudden gush of feelings filled my heart, my vision became blurred,  later understood that the eyes were already filled with tears, but somewhere in my mind i was trying to believe her words.

It was really tough, tough like anything, to accept this new concept of space. But, at the end of the day, on the way back home, i knew, this friendship world is really a hard one for somebody like me to survive. So i need to accept this, at least to understand this, as it is the only solution i have in front of me to avoid becoming stressed on some silly issues and taking it out on my beloved family.

The most important thing i will like to do always is to be self-aware. Like, my turn-ons and turn-offs, situations in which i can become stressed and what all things i am going to speak to my friends. As far as i know myself, i dont like to hide things from my family and my best friends. I never think twice while speaking to them. All because i believe that even if i make some mistake, they are out to help me, advice me. If i am aware of these things, and take care of these things while mingling with them, i think i will be the most loving friend within my friend circle.

Another important thing is that I should never ever try to lose my self-identity. Let my friend have a life of their own. Once i am ready to accept that, i am sure, the relations will become more smooth and the bonding will become more tough. But sometimes my mind pops up a question- "Will the bonding get stronger, as you bring space in between??"
I donno..yup..i simply donno.. But i started out saying that my mind is trying to believe her words. And at this point of time, i dont wanna change that belief ..

To be frank, you know, my problem was that i always believed that my best friend is someone who loves to be around me 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.. (That sounds really rude...rit!!) But the truth behind this belief was that i always wanted to cherish each and every minute i spend with them.

I never thought anything out-of-the-box. Whether he/she is missing their friends? Whether I break my plans, or not even make them at all, or even be a reason for my friend to drop his/her plans?? All this was because I thought he/she is my best friend? So, they should be comfortable with me.. And i never even probed through them to find if they are comfortable with me.. are they in their comfortable zones??(I know.. its a big mistake, rit!!)

Ya.. this is it.. these are just a few symptoms which show that i need to give some space in my relationships, to my friends.

Let me stop this.. like she used to say.. i think i am making the whole "SPACE" (friendship) thing complicated..
 
Somewhere i have read "Absence makes the heart grow fonder". If i can never give space to my best friends, how will they ever miss me?? (Wow!! i donno how this idea came out..)

When i give some space to my relationships, it actually avoids them.. even me, from Asphyxiation(oops!! i just meant suffocation..:-)), and it also keep the relation refreshed and ongoing.

As a last word what i would like to always remember is that "Friendship doesn’t mean I am taking on a person as if he/she is now my shadow."

Hope this was what she meant..

Are you guys gonna be with me??

It's really nice to see..
When the sun in the sky meets the sea..
That's when I, Aswin, Deeps and Shari
Slowly moves out of TATA Elxsi..

Usually walks to the Mojos at Gayathri..
Sometimes to Nila beneath the red umbrellas of Rangoli..
And on the Fridays, we usually
walk to the food court in Thejaswini..
Even if our pockets are full of money..
We still share the food and honey..

Be it cloudy or rainy..
I will hold their hands firmly..
If I had one wish this is what it would be,
I'd ask you all to spend all your time with me,
we would be together eternally..

And sometimes questions comes up softly..
like "Am I of their Frequency?
Will they ever hurt me?"
But I know and I will answer it simply..
"The only way they can hurt me
is to make me feel lonely..
And I know, they will never do it to me
So why to think of it buddy??"

But at midnight when all ends up in a jiffy..
I am always cheerful and happy-go-lucky..
Because, tomorrow morning at 9:30
I know.. these guys will be with me..

എന്റെ സ്വന്തം കൂട്ടുകാരിക്ക്

ഞാന്‍ നിന്റെ വല്യ പൂന്തോട്ടതിലേ ഒരു ചെറു പുഷ്പം മാത്രമാണ്‌
ഞാന്‍ അടര്നുവീണാല്‍, നീ ഒട്ടറിയില്ല.. നിനക്ക് വേധനികുകയുമില്ല..

എന്നാല്‍ നീ എന്റെ ചെറിയ പൂന്തോട്ടതിലേ ഒരു വല്യ സുന്ദരി പുഷ്പമാണ്‌
ഒരു കാറ്റില്‍ നീ അടര്നു വീണാല്‍.. ഞാന്‍ അതറിയും..
അതെന്നേ വലാതെയ്‌ വെധനിപ്പികുകയും ചെയും..

What a day it was for me..

Wow!!
What a day it was for me..

My bike had a problem on the way..
So had to take it to the service station some 2 kms away..
Took a KSRTC Fast Passenger from there..
Then I was pushed inside to nowhere..

Oops!! I made a mistake by calling it a bus..
It was a Ship with all sort of fuss..
Engines roaring..
People screaming..
Teenagers flirting..

The air inside was really hot..
In 10 mins my shirt was wet..
and my shoes.. full of dirt..

Reached Kazhakoottam in 45 mins..
jumped into a rikshaw with all my limbs..
to reach the office in a glimpse..

Now is the comedy..
I knew i dint have any money
in my 5 year old purse with a ganesha locket..
So searched my pocket
to give that twenty rupees to the man on the front seat..

Ayyoo..
That was the only cry I could make..

my money was stolen..
Alas..
I took my purse out of my pants..
had a lots of coins..
ranging from 25ps to ...
not 10 Rs..hmm..
a little lesser than that.. 1 Re.

Started counting the coins in a hurry..
The noise was really funny..
I think that made the man worry..
anyways.. the scene was a total sambaar curry..

Appa..
14 Rs 75 ps..

I grinned..
He gave me his last piece of advice..
#$%$@#@$%^%$(malayalam)..
I donno..
Some in "pa".. some in "ma"..
Without looking back..

walked safely to the office..
My face was so bright..
but my heart was really tight..
i donno..
Maybe I will burst out in the night..

Wow!!
What a day it was for me..